The pain we are ridding ourselves from is all the pain that would have come to us in the future
This yoga sutra of Patanjali has a very profound meaning. Sometimes we are dealing with a painfull situation, paying a daily toll for hanging on to it. Think of it as paying ten dollars every day for an issue you stick to for one hundred days (1000 dollars), and to get rid of the issue seems to cost you at least half of that… in ONE payment. It creates the tendency to try to just soothe it down with a small daily payment. The truth is, that sooner or later you will have to pay that ONE big payment anyways, and on top by that time you would have paid as well your daily toll meanwhile you decide to resolve.
There sure is a fee taxed on your health for each day you stay in a painfull situation (job, relationship, etc). Nonetheless you stick to it. But really, All the pain we are ridding ourselves from is all the pain that would have come to us in the future. If you can really understand deeply this concept, and be super honest with yourself about the way the situation will lead you to, then you should have the strength to make a choice and pay that ONE payment at once and just let it go, instead of carrying it with you until you HAVE to let it go anyways, or until there is an unchangeable consequence that could keep you living in regret for the rest of your life. The time to get rid of the pain is now, the process will take take place possibly the same way either today or next month, don’t be stubborn.